Tuesday, May 27, 2008

I think I am feeling empty nest twinges --I do not need to drive anyone to school or pick them up, Run spelling words /multiplication tables, memorize Purple Cow, go to sports games And since Z has been working after school the day does not break at 3:30 to transition to evening... I do not love this...... I may try to get a new job sometime soon--- but I do wish at times I could repeat some of the years of the past and do everything better. When people ask How I am? and I say I've been....w./ a hesitation they fill in the word busy and I say no not like I use to be. At the Drs office they say well stress could cause that--- have you been under a lot of stress? No, not really.... SO I am truly in a different stage of life-- I look forward to it and even though I am content and and happy --- the time to myself I craved as a young mom is not always what it is cracked up to be.

11 comments:

Chris said...

I like your post. I have a 13 year old boy and have been thinking that I might need to get another job in 3 years when he gets even busier! Right now I am still in that Crave my Own time phase, but 3 years will go by very fast. Hang in there tho, I hear the best is yet to come ! XO

Playful Professional said...

I definitely think that happens to people. Obviously I'm not there yet. Maybe a new job/volunteer work something like that would fill up the time that was normally filled up with the kids. Maybe someday we'll have kids and you'll get to be a young grandma :)

the teach said...

Finding a job or a new hobby or taking classes might help, Marcia. I know it must be hard...

txmommy said...

sorry it's hard now, I know you'll find something worthwhile to do. You are awesome!

Kathy said...

Your post made me cry. Especially the last line "the time to myself I craved as a young mom is not always what it is cracked up to be"

It made me realize we need to enjoy every moment of every day.

nikko said...

Thanks for the reminder. Now that mine are starting to get a bit older I'm REALLY realizing how fast time is going by and really trying to live in the moment and ENJOY. So hard to do. I think it's the natural man or human nature to constantly look forward to what we think is going to be the next best thing...

John and Rachael said...

Your post gave me a new perspective on my last week. I have been busy with kids and kid stuff and just wanting a minute to myself...until I read your post and the General Conference talk entitled "Daughters of God". I really am trying to find joy in the moments of motherhood before those moments are gone.

Junebug said...

As things change it also takes time to adjust to these changes. My oldest daughter's graduation from high school in 2002 was very hard to take. Then my son in 2004 and another daughter in 2005. It actually got easier. You adjust. Emotions come and go too. Now my oldest daughter has graduated college (finally) and the other two are still in college. No marriages yet. So many changes to come. :D

Kirsetin said...

I agree with Kathy's comments above. My husband and I have talked about how life is sort of one or the other - busy with kid stuff, or sad from the lack thereof. Thank you for reminding me to enjoy even the crazy-busy moments of carpools and piano practice, homework and sporting events.

I have a good life said...

I'll trade you a day now and then! :) I am so busy and so tired that I can't imagine what even a second alone would be like. I'm also 100% sure that I will miss the chaos like you now do.

So...if you're ever in the need for a little chaos...I'll trade you lives for a day! :)

Ornery's Wife said...

My nest emptied a year and a half ago when my youngest joined the Air Force. Having homeschooled him all the way through, and his older sister until high school, I was sure the empty nest would be horrible.

But, my husband's new job requires some travel, and for the first time ever, I am free to come and go with him. We have always been very close, but with the new lifestyle we have of "just the two of us" we are even closer. We are growing spiritually, are able to eat healthy foods without grimaces from kids, and are no longer awakened in the middle of the night by someone coming in from work.

All that to say, while at first it is a challenge, as any life change is, take time to be grateful that you still have your beloved, and the opportunity to rediscover that first love. Thank God for your time as a mom of young children, and that you were able to be there for them--not many moms are that dedicated any more!

Soon, kids' weddings, grandchildren and other commitments will fill your lives, so grasp this quiet time and relish it. And don't worry --they never really go away!
TM